Let’s go running ladies!

So. It has been a while. Hi guys 🙂

Tomorrow (Sat 8th March 2014) is International Women’s Day #IWD2014. And I for one am proud to be a female. We rock!

To celebrate all things wonderful about womanhood I will be running in Central London tomorrow with the lovely Bangs of Spikes & Heels and a bunch of other dope women. We will be running roughly 4 miles (and it’s not competitive so you can run at your own pace – I’ll be keeping the back in good company!) and stopping every now and again to remember the awesome women who have lived before us and amongst us in this beautiful city.

As I have somehow committed to running the New Orleans Rock ‘n Roll (half) marathon next January with a motley crew of Exploring Mindset Sea Dragon pirates this will be as good a start as any to get me back into running again (I haven’t run properly for about a year given ongoing back problems).

The run starts at Green Park tube station at 9am tomorrow, so if you are about, come on down and bring friends! Don’t forget to wear your most comfy running shoes and bring your water bottle & neon bandana (PS neon bandana is optional).

See you there!

International-Womens-Day-Run

Dear Antonia…

Hi Antonia

I hope you are well.

Just wanted to share my concerns with a successful women who I hope will understand my frustration.

I have noticed a number of articles recently, some disappointingly written by female journalists, that seem to not only reinforce ancient gender stereotypes – ‘women are not natural networkers’, but more importantly, inadvertently discredit women’s natural business potential by reinforcing associations between female success and  adoption of ‘masculine’ behaviours- we must ‘start schmoozing like men’.

I am tired of reading about femininity being a hindrance in business ‘you need to change your female mindset’. Tired of reading articles that seem to identify the primary cause of women being the second-rate enterprise gender as exactly that, the fact that they are female. As though our sexuality is a disability in business that we need to camouflage with testosterone in order to succeed.

I am worried about the way these powerful media messages will shape my younger sisters’ worldviews.

For that reason, I feel urged to e-mail you. You are a prominent woman in the UK’s media world and I would like to share with you some of my thoughts on your article (and the wider issues it addresses) which I read yesterday on The Times Online.

Interestingly it was filed in the Life and Style section as oppose to the Business section of the site.

REF: ARTICLE

On top of the perhaps necessary controversial headline ‘Why Women Are Such Bad Networkers’, skim reading the first few paragraphs results in this visual summary:

Why women are such bad networkers: it’s no good thinking hard work will get you anywhere…you have to start schmoozing like men. The champagne is not working. Women are not natural networkers. “It’s a complete scandal” Gordon Brown agrees...

Not a pretty picture. Why do we need to behave like men in order to be successful? We are not natural networkers… I totally disagree! We are relationship builders through and through! We connect with people, we nurture and sustain relationships, we tell great stories, we really listen

In the article, gender inequality, particularly in the corporate world, is highlighted, and of course necessarily so, because it is a massive issue, and we all know the playing field is far from even, especially in the board rooms and top half of Corporate UK. But to attribute this inequality of success to the ‘fairer’ sex not being male or manly enough (something none of us should want to change) is reinforced sexism and innately wrong.

We as women, can embrace our femininity and individualism be extremely successful in business without acting like men. I will not reel off real life examples, you mention some in your article and I am sure many names come to mind.

Sweeping generalisations are also made (some are from quotes and are not your own words) without reference to statistics or ratios – ‘Women tend to lack social capital’ and “Women do their jobs in a quiet professional manner and don’t tell everybody what a good job they are doing”. This is far from true in my workplace!

The article discusses networking and its value in the climb to the top. However a clear definition of networking is not provided. Networking is loosely defined as an altruistic activity- ‘it’s about forming relationships that can be used to help others, and get help in return’. Why?! Do we need to do this to ‘sell’ networking to women? Are we that selfless a gender?!

Networking is about forming mutually beneficial professional relationships and finding the people you need to get the resources you require. It is not always about a giving transaction. That is ok. Women can cope with that! Networking is also not isolated to formalised events, it can take place in an elevator as often, if not more, as over supplied champagne and vol-au-vents.

“You insert yourself at a given point, spray your card around and meet people. Then you invite them on to something else. You have to be so disciplined with yourself. I carry a notebook around with me, always”

The importance of networking and building and banking social capital (especially via social media) are also highlighted. Great. The problem is that suggestions made for women to address their inability and also get noticed at work include “volunteering within your organisation, setting up some charitable initiative that gets you noticed”. Volunteering or setting up a charitable initiative– why? Again an altruistic focus. This is business not the DoE. Perhaps because we wouldn’t possibly want to hold a conversation about football? Chats about footy / darts take an awful lot less effort and organising! I personally would rather read the back pages of the Metro to be honest.

Reinforcing gender stereotypes? Yes. Maybe some suggestions about cross-gender networking above ‘sharing war stories’ would have been less patronising and more helpful?

In the same space, the referral to charity work and volunteering baffles me no end. This is an article about businesswomen, social capital, networking; its importance and benefits, gender comparisons in techniques and what women can do to enhance their networking skills isn’t it?! No wait, then I remember the title! Why are we mentioning doing things for others, and for free so much?

I know there is research behind the generalisations and statements made and that isn’t what worries me. What worries me is the overriding notion that we as women are at a genetic disadvantage when it comes to building networks, climbing ladders and selling ourselves, and that in order to  overcome our gender disability we need to further emphasis it through the traditional altruistic behaviours associated to womanhood OR deny it by adopting ‘unnatural’ male behaviours.

I passionately believe that something needs to be done about the fact that women are being told time and time again that they are naturally too feminine to achieve success equal to men in business environments. The solution to this issue does not lie in women being willing to do as men do or play up to out-of-date female stereotypes.

The solution is more likely to lie in individual businesswomen learning about and harnessing their individual strengths, identifying and building on their individual weaknesses, learning, improving and exploiting every transferable business skill (including networking) that there is in the book, confidently presenting their abilities, seeing themselves as equals, working damn hard and being the best at what they do. (This is of course not an exhaustive solution, I know the situation is an awful lot more complex, as your article suggests).

You are in the position to do something about this! To promote the benefits of being a woman and perhaps more importantly, an individual in business and using what skills and traits we often have as women – intuition, compassion, understanding, balance etc as well as all of our individual differences (we are all women and of course all individuals) to succeed in the corporate world.

Also I would really like to know about your personal journey of success so far, have you written about this? Could you please send me a link if so?

In closing I would like to let you know that I had such a fantastic International Women’s Day on Monday. I spent the day schmoozing and networking like the Networking Queen that I am at the Stepping Into Success Conference held by Women Unlimited at British Library with over 200 other female entrepreneurs / businesswomen who are doing pretty damn well in the enterprise / business sector despite their breasts and female mindsets!

I also live- tweeted from the event, letting my social network on Twitter know all about what I was doing for my business’s benefit. You can check out the tweets from the day (and many of the attendees) using this hash tag #WUC . I couldn’t find you on Twitter though Antonia. Are you tweeting? If not you really should! It’s great for networking / business.

Thank you very much for writing the article and for getting this much-needed conversation started.

Thank you also for taking the time to read this e-mail, I am sure as the Deputy Business Editor of The Times you are ridiculously busy!

I look forward to receiving your response.

Warm regards

Naomi Jane

(Sent via e-mail to Antonia on Friday 11th March 2010)

International Women’s Day 2010

“A woman who is convinced that she deserves to accept only the best challenges herself to give the best. Then she is living phenomenally” Maya Angelou

Today is International Women’s Day. A day to celebrate the social, political and economical achievements of women around the world; past, present and future.

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world” Anne Frank

Let’s remember those who sacrificed their lives and fought so hard for the freedom and rights that we now have and often take for granted in the UK.

“It is our duty to make this world a better place for women” Dame Christabel Pankhurst

Let’s not forget the women all over the world who are still fighting for gender equality, for freedom, for justice and for a better world. May they stay strong and fight on.

“We want to empower our people; we want to strengthen them; we want to provide them with the kind of qualifications that will enable them to build up their own country themselves” Daw Aung San Suu Kyi

Let’s take time to let the women in our lives know that we love, value and appreciate them.

“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” Maya Angelou

Here’s to wonderful women all over the world, in all their roles and all their beauty.

Follow the International Women’s Day commentary on Twitter with the hashtag #IWD

Today is Women’s Day…

International Women’s Day

Take the time to commend and thank the important woman in your life today.

I’m gonna 🙂